Why It's Okay To Wear Makeup

November 04, 2013
I'm sure a lot of you are familiar with a popular website called 9GAG, right? It's a great boredom buster of a site and I see some of the funniest or interesting posts on there that I love sharing with friends. But sometimes there are uploaded posts which really hit a nerve for me.

I think we should all respect everyone's opinion, no matter what it is, but there are times when an opinion seems to defy all logic and sense that you can't help but get worked up over it, know what I mean? Recently, certain posts and comments on 9GAG have really gotten to me and they're specifically about makeup. Even more specifically, how it's able to transform someone's appearance.

Image from 9gag.com
Take a look at the picture. I don't know about you, but what first comes to mind for me is "Wow! Amazing job!" Putting aside any possible Photoshopping, and taking into consideration elements like proper lighting, I can still say I love what they did to her, especially that absolutely perfect contouring job. The lipstick/lipgloss is such a flattering shade on her too and now I'm curious what brand it's from because I want it as well!

However, a lot of people on 9GAG don't express the same kind of reaction. In fact, they do just the opposite. Here are just some of the comments I've gathered from posts of a similar nature (1, 2, 3) that show before and after pictures of women with and without makeup:

  • Make up should be illegal so I actually know who I'm marrying.
  • That's why make up is bad.
  • Birth rates would severely drop if the world were without makeup.
  • False advertising!

What has the world come to when women are made to feel ashamed and are judged for simply wearing makeup?

I noticed a lot of these hateful comments are centered around makeup being used to deceive. As if it was this evil tool that a woman can use to make others do her bidding or turn things in her favor. You don't know everyone's story, therefore you can never immediately judge a woman based on how much makeup she uses and why she wears it in the first place. For whatever intention a woman wears makeup, why must we point fingers and accuse her of this or that? What if certain women are just so crippled with insecurity about how they look that they believe makeup is the only thing that can give them confidence about their physical self? To be honest, instead of judging, we should be concerned. As if the media doesn't cause enough emotional (insecurity) and physical (plastic surgery, extreme dieting, etc.) damage to women and young girls alike by dictating what is "supposed" to be considered "beautiful" these days.

Look at the picture again. Do you think the woman is physically unattractive before she has makeup on? Do you think she's "ugly"? I don't. What she does look is different, but that's it. If you think, or even expect, every woman to look exactly the same with and without makeup, you're living a life of disillusion. No matter what someone looks like, slap on some makeup and there's bound to be even the slightest of differences afterwards. If a man regrets being initially attracted to a woman once he sees her without makeup, then the real issue instead is that the man is clearly too shallow for any functional and healthy relationship with a woman. Whatever happened to personalities being considered attractive as well? Can you imagine being expected to look fully made up even in your own home with your partner at all times? If your partner is more concerned about your appearance than your well-being, it's high time the relationship needs to be re-evaluated and terminated.

I can see where some of the comments are coming from by saying makeup is 'deceiving', because let's be honest, with the right application you can dramatically change any of your physical features. But whether it's 'deceiving' or not is based entirely on, once again, intention. I wear makeup for a specific intention, and that is for confidence. I don't think I'm hideous, but at the same time I'm insecure about certain features or blemishes of mine. I don't like the sight of my post-acne marks or large pores, so I cover them up with foundation and primer. I think my eyes are too dark compared to the rest of my face, so I brighten them up with a concealer and highlighter. I think my complexion is a little dull sometimes, so I fix that with some lipstick and blush. Is that bad? Should I be ashamed that I do all that? I'm not playing tricks on anyone. All I'm doing when applying my makeup each day is giving myself a boost of confidence, nothing more. If I were playing tricks and out to deceive, then you would see me denying that I look any different without makeup on.

I know this post is getting much too long, but as a final point, why do certain women who choose to not use any makeup think it's okay to look down on those who do? This is also something I've seen being mentioned here and there among the 9GAG comments. If you feel confident enough in yourself to bare it all naturally, then good for you! I'm genuinely happy you're able to do that. In fact, I'm a little jealous! But don't make others feel like they're constantly committing a crime by wearing makeup just because you do not. We all don't have the same levels of confidence or self-esteem, and that's just something that can't be helped.

Don't be afraid to wear makeup. Don't ever let someone make you feel like it's bad to. You can recognize your inner self-worth and beauty while also applying your mascara in the morning.

I've rambled on long enough, so before I finally end this post, just remember that makeup is a wonderful tool that can both make you feel and look great, as well as bring out amazing ideas and inspire your inner creativity and imagination. But true beauty comes from within. It's how you live your life and how you treat others around you, so always stay beautiful!

What do you guys think? What are your thoughts on "makeup shaming"? Do you agree that women who wear makeup are 'deceiving' others? I'd love to hear what you all have to say in the comments!

27 comments:

  1. I appreciate that article a lot!
    I think after 20 it is required that a self-respecting woman would wear some makeup daily even if it's minimal.
    The woman on the left photo looks tired. And that is how most of us look during work/study time. It is perfectly normal. I have naturally pale skin so when I don't sleep enough during the week I am ending up looking like a vampire. People ask if I am sick if they see me on such day (even my own mother) so a sheer layer of BB cream and some blush and I look like a human again.
    There is no person who can make me feel ashamed of choosing to look good no matter how I feel. It is a matter of pride not to go out like a zombie cause I had only 2 hours of sleep last night.
    Plus, let's face it, often those who go totally bare faced are the ones who don't know how to use makeup. It's an art and not everyone is an artist. Of course too much makeup or wrong application looks like a disaster and those cases I would say the person is better without makeup. But when properly applied any woman is prettier with makeup than without it.

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  2. I do not think it bring shame to wear makeups... but true that if one use too much, often bring bad impression to peoples.

    I once worked part time in a kindergarten and there was a co-worker that have heavy make up on everyday, like these going to party and that did not leave a good first impression to me... I try not to judge her of that though and she is nice.

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  3. Oh no, how come. For me it's okay to use makeup as long as it is properly applied on the face and not too much. I don't see it as to deceive other people, it is merely an enhancement of how a person can look like.

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  4. People can be really shallow! I don't see how wearing makeup is equivalent to deceiving people. It's an art for heaven's sake! And it's something which should be appreciated! People can sometimes be so... I dunno? Shallow? Lame? Pathetic? A-holes?

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  5. Oh wow!!! That's amazing. I've always wanted to do that with my hair but I've got such long hair that I just give up halfway there. But on the odd times that i do it doesn't last :( love the post thought xoxo

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  6. Great post! Though I think people is beautiful with and without makeup...
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  7. It's sad when others think makeup is all bad. It's meant to enhance our features and make us feel good and confident, not to deceive others. Still, I love playing with makeup, and no one can stop me from doing that. :D

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  8. Marisa (Polish Obsession)Saturday, November 09, 2013

    I don't wear makeup, but that doesn't mean I should shame those who do. To each her own is what I say. I will say though, that I think it's so much better when your makeup has a natural look though, like the picture you shared. #giglove

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  9. makeup is a girl thing. When done right its a form of art. that's all I can say <3 Love your post.

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  10. Rosalie B.TangonanSaturday, November 09, 2013

    I appreciate this. Thank you for that confidence you give me. #giglove -Rosalie Tangonan http://rosalietangonan.wordpress.com/

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  11. I love make-up but everything in moderation.
    I think I actually wear much less make-up now than when I was in my 20s.
    Small foundation to even skin colour and mascara are a must!

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  12. that's incredible ... the way you can change just using makeup. Anyway I don't agree in changing completely your face because I don't like to seem as I'm not. have a fab night.
    xxx
    mari

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  13. I've also already seen this and was quite shocked what men but also other women partly wrote ...

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  14. I love this, and I agree with you. I stopped looking at 9gag's comments when it comes to anything makeup/beauty related, because most of the guys have the same stupid opinion. They think they are god-like for saying "I like naturel girls!". Oh, stop. It makes me cringe. If I want to wear makeup, no one can tell me I should not. And no one can tell me I am fake. And it goes for girls telling other girls as well. I'm so happy about how much thought you put into this post, (and I am proud to have you as my follower!) finally someone had the courage to say this. I love it! ♥

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  15. To each their own I guess. Some people feel confident with a face full of make up, but some girls feel confident even bare faced. I don't see a problem with it, but knowing the judgy society we live in, hate comments are always going to be there, bare faced, or not.

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  16. I want to have someone who will do for my this makeup on my face :D

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  17. I seriously do not understand why people have to resort to 'makeup shaming' ? There's absolutely nothing wrong if someone wants to look different or want a change, that's her or his own choice. And I don't think that it's about deceiving others when one wears makeup, it simply is a choice that us women make for reasons we have, but obviously other people just don't think like that. My hubby doesn't mind it when I wear makeup or not, in fact, he gives me advice or his honest opinion if the color I chose compliments my skin or not.. (yeah, I have an instant girlfriend here haha) and I'm more than happy about it. He always tells me that makeup is all about 'accentuating' the features that you already have. And yes, what an amazing job they've done on her. Thanks for sharing this article sweetness. x Donah GiG

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  18. Kajsa Josephine AndersenMonday, November 11, 2013

    I like a balance, that is should be okay wearing and not wearing make-up. Must add that I live in a fairly non-make-up okay country, where it is regarded as okay to go without while grocery shopping.


    Personally, I stopped using foundation half a year ago, I receive just as good service in cafes etc. as prior. Perhaps it is also a cultural thing?

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  19. I dont think its a shame to wear makeup as long as you know how to apply it and how to carry your self whilst wearing makeup without being self obsessed or low-confidence. Its your inner strength that count nothing else matters.

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  20. it's kinda like plastic surgery as well, don't you think? I mean, ppl go under the knife to feel beautiful, but after others find out that they've done something to their face, they're accused of being fake :( such a tough world we live in these days

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  21. I do not judge people over makeup. I have just crossed 30 and just this yr I have started taking interest in makeup. That too for video tutorials. I don't use makeup everyday or most of the days. But I like makeup and if someone like to do makeup, I don't see why people are so judgemental about it! Each to her own! If someone is saying that they would like to know whom they are marrying, then I must say they are some sad soul! If they are marrying someone only for that outer look, then they are seriously in for some trouble in the long term, makeup or not.

    I am an Indian and I have read about makeup and jewelleries and beauty prevailing in our culture since thousands of years. Both for women and men. It was considered as a form of art and was also considered as a form of power.



    On the top of that, I think this is hypocrisy. Considering, exceptions are always there, it's men who would give more attention to a well made-up woman than to a woman who is not. So, if women are more tending towards makeup, they are responsible for that too in a way. No one wants to be ignored. And not only in a romantic way or something. You would just lost yourself in the sea of well made-up women in the modern world. Many feminists would beat me up for saying this, but whatever one may say, attraction between men and women are the cause of many things and makeup and grooming are one of the main stuffs among those. So, they should either change themselves or just shut their mount tightly and enjoy what is being given to them.

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  22. I do agree on what you say and I do not think makeup is shaming. I do think wearing makeup gives confidence to a woman. I enjoy spending time to put on makeup and feeling good after that :)

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  23. I only started using makeup last year and I am 23. Still, I appreciate makeup and the confidence boost it brings to women. giglove

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  24. i am personally more bothered by the quality of makeup, rather than the quantity of it. if, like in your 9gag example, it's VERY well done and actually makes someone more symmetrical/armonious/photogenic, good for them! But after all makeup is just a game, we should have more fun with it instead of trying to look better. remember when we were kids and tried on mum's lipstick? ^^

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  25. Haley RockefellerWednesday, March 05, 2014

    thanks so much for this article! This was shared with my entire high school (all girls) because a lot of them had been shamed for wearing or not wearing makeup to school!

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  26. Wow, thank you so much as well! I hope the article has been able to help a lot of the girls :)

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